Mid Week Ramble: Advanced Psychotherapy 102
My last two entries have been total losses. . .
battling at Battle of the Blogs, essentially losing every battle to every genre. I'm not really sure how to take that but probably best with a grain of salt. I suppose in the blogosphere every author, self included, feels their topics are of the utmost importance. Often I recall my youth when I was totally oblivious to current world events or any topic outside of popular media culture of Hollywood tabloids and the sports world. With age my interests have changed 180 degrees and the space in my brain reserved for starting line up rosters and stats of my favorite teams have been replaced by the Democratic and Republican Candidates for the next Presidential election. I've taken interest in 9/11 conspiracy theories and have even tried the stock market and reached a point where I could care less for the Super Bowl or the Final Four. I find myself turned on by excerpts from Jon Stewart, Stephen Colbert, and Bill Mauer. I've learned to love to hate O'Rielly, Ann Coulter, and Sean Hannity. Maybe such changes are normal for the fifth decade of life. I believe the ability to change or evolve is one thing that makes life more interesting.
I think I have the most interesting job in the world but also am aware that others may beg to disagree. It's probably the fact that I have the privilege of actually intervening, where appropriate, into the lives of others that makes it more interesting for me. What I have found to be most fascinating is observing people change over time and resolve problems once seen as unsolvable by that individual. Milton Erickson was a gifted psychologist that possessed super human insight and interpretive abilities. I learned of him from a former colleague. My potential and abilities pale in comparison to such a great professional but I have found my own gift of making accurate psychodynamic interpretations. There is a certain pleasure in the experience of seeing a persons' face light up when they understand their situation in a more hopeful light for the first time. Providing even a modest degree of clarity to what was once viewed as chaos can be exhilarating as a part of psychotherapy. Confronting a patient still anchored in denial is the most crucial phase of effective psychotherapy but also the part where I do not feel gifted at all. There is often no pleasurable way of doing denial demolition. Sometimes if the countertransference is negative toward the person, presenting a little painful truth may not be as problematic. If a good therapist to patient alliance exists the risk of an undesired or ineffective response to confronting one in need of confrontation has a better chance of success.
To the average reader this entry may seem senseless or hard to follow. As you may have noticed, sometimes I tend to make these self therapeutic entries that may only have clear meaning to me. By blowing this stuff out of my brain I usually seem to replenish my creativity and passion and produce one or two following entries that may be worth reading to more people. Or at least that's my perception. I know if my narcissism starts to exceed its boundaries I can just visit Battle of the Blogs to have my ego rapidly and thoroughly deflated and return to reality.
This entry is actually premature but my day was filled with so many interesting cases that I felt a need to record something for future reflection. Any information written here will always be in a manner within compliance of HIPAA regulations and with absolute privacy protection of any person mentioned. I never thought working with adolescent patients could be so fascinating but when the proper support system is in place some of them can be amazing to work with. Because the young have limited vocabularies they become masters of the art of acting out most everything. Many times their behavior can be a direct reflection of the inappropriate behavior of parents or other adults they associate with. The mind of many kids can be compared to a lump of clay being molded by experiences and emotions.
All of the things the child cannot say are observed in behaviors. The range of behaviors is very broad. Today brought a child between the age of 9 and 11 years old displacing anger at his sociopathic mother, who abandoned him a few years ago, onto his paternal grandmother who has taken on the mother role. The hostility has progressed to where the child saw it fit to call grandmother a bitch and even physically assault her. The mother who abandoned him and continues to terrorize the family unit on occasion, interestingly, is viewed as a virtual saint by the child. It really is a shame that a kid this age has had to be exposed to such a world but confrontation as to why he is so abusive to the one who has shown him the most love is essential. He will not have a logical answer but part of establishing and enforcing limits and boundaries requires that he give this contradictory behavior some thought. His grades have fallen from A's to F's. Eventually, a diagnosis of PTSD with an overcompensation through displaced hostile aggression had to be considered. His pronounced verbal denial of fear, "I ain't afraid of nobody," later followed by the revelation of being terrified of sleeping alone pretty much confirmed my suspicions. Failed trials of Ritalin and Risperdal by his pediatrician also suggested more than Oppositional Defiant Disorder and ADHD as previously thought. Bipolar Disorder must also be considered. Despite this high degree of anger and hostility this kid was likeable and clearly was suffering severely. His mother continues to radiate pain into his life. All he ever wanted was her love. He possessed the assets of being verbal and able to identify with the misdirected explosive emotions. I'm so glad I could see him at age 10 rather than at age 35 after incarceration and crack addiction. The treatment team and I may or may not succeed at helping him but he has a fighting chance against a world that isn't always fair.
In another story there were two young brothers who really touched me. The younger brother had played with matches and accidentally set the grandparents' house on fire. Everyone had safely escaped from the flames except the elderly grandfather. Heroically, the older brother ran back into the home and helped grandfather through the smoke and blazes to safety. I spoke with their mother several minutes before seeing the boys and was amazed at how well she seemed to be handling things. I felt thankful no one lost their life but felt horrible for the guilt the younger kid was probably feeling. He wasn't given a break from end of grade exams by the school and not surprisingly he did poorly. The mother then told me of how the older brother gave his younger brother much needed encouragement at the lowest point in his short life. They both made the gesture of offering the money from their partially burnt wallets to the grand parents to help them back on their feet during the grief and rebuilding period. Tragedies tend to bring out the best or worst in us. This story was so touching and inspiring, especially how the family accepted the event as an accident and focused on the value of life and the need to maintain love as top priorities. The community did rally to help the grandparents who had always been known for their own generosity throughout the years. There were many silver linings here. After it seemed nothing else could add to the story the mother revealed to me the family lineage connecting to a world renoun breakfast food icon who had left an inheritance in the past to the grandparents but they were deprived of receiving any money by legal maneuvers by a closer relative. The mother spoke of how her father never showed animosity toward the person depriving him of what was willed to him. I suppose it is the forgiving nature of this family that touched me so. Fortunately, the home had fire insurance and will eventually be replaced. More importantly, thank God no life was lost partially due to the bravery of a very modest 12 year old. I am happy to be a part of trying to help put things back together.
Several weeks ago I was somewhat harshly critiqued by a reader on my post Hard Out Here for my handling of a session gone awry with an angry 16 yo. Sometimes we cannot know our response to certain situations until that time actually arises for us personally. I've learned a lot from books and training but find that what is learned is not practical for each and every situation. For this particular case, given the circumstances, I still stand by my response though I am in no way proud of it. About certain things, I am from the old school and always will be. I took into consideration that this young woman was quite street smart. She did push my buttons. She felt she could punk me because that tactic had been successful for her in certain other situations. I carry the title of Psychiatrist but can play a number of roles if necessary. Without that potential, I could have not made it this far in life. No one will ever come into my office and blatantly disrespect and threaten me without a firm and direct response in return. I will give them a pass if they have a psychotic illness or they sincerely don't know any better. But, as far as I am concerned, isolated sociopathic behavior is not a legitimate mental disorder, it is a special behavioral problem that is mostly learned and practiced. Adolescents with certain conduct disorders and normal intelligence are often just sociopaths in training. If they are not forced to change they will not change. In my short run I have met enough sociopaths to know that I do not like the behavior of many. With some I have found myself not liking them period.
I may be a doctor but I am a human and a man first. I make no apologies for my behavior in the situation previously mentioned given that there was a chaperone/witness present for observation. In this business it becomes blatantly obvious that only a percentage of those encountered will have what it takes to benefit from treatment. Each day I try and concentrate what I have to offer on that percentage with reasonable promise. It doesn't bother me if an individual sees me as not having what they seek or need. I love all people. I like all people except sociopaths and sociopathic crack addicts in particular. I draw the line here.
Rest In Peace
Yolanda "Yoki" King
11/17/1955 - 05/15/2007
Thinking Bloggers Unite
Thanks to Carwyn for tagging Quest 4 Sanity for the Thinking Blogger Award. My site has never attracted much attention for design or graphics since so many other bloggers have the edge on that talent. I'm more at home in the arena of ideas and play with words. Thanks to the creator of this award for developing a means of recognition for bloggers who might go less noticed and lost in the shuffle otherwise. As the rules require I will nominate my five choices.
1 Blue Panther http://www.blogexplosion.com/show_page.php?SiteID=78791
2 Sin and Curse http://www.blogexplosion.com/show_page.php?SiteID=102859
3 If Luck Runs Out http://www.blogexplosion.com/show_page.php?SiteID=103732
4 Stewart Consortium http://www.blogexplosion.com/show_page.php?SiteID=97994
5 Aquire Wisdom and Live With Passion http://www.blogexplosion.com/show_page.php?SiteID=95230
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2. Link to this post so that people can easily find the exact origin of the meme,
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